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How Can I Help My Overweight Child?

From the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases (NIDDK)

Involve the whole family in building healthy eating and physical activity habits. It benefits everyone and does not single out the child who is overweight.

Do not put your child on a weight loss diet unless your health care professional tells you to. If children do not eat enough, they may not grow and learn as well as they should.

Be Supportive

Tell your child that he or she is loved, is special and is important. Children’s feelings about themselves often are based on their parents’ feelings about them.

Accept your child at any weight. Children will be more likely to accept and feel good about themselves when their parents accept them.

Listen to your child’s concerns about his or her weight. Overweight children probably know better than anyone else that they have a weight problem. They need support, understanding and encouragement from parents.

Encourage Healthy Eating Habits
  • Buy and serve more fruits and vegetables (fresh, frozen or canned). Let your child choose them at the store.
  • Buy fewer soft drinks and high-fat or high-calorie snack foods like chips, cookies, and candy. These snacks may be OK once in a while, but always keep healthy snack foods on hand. Offer the healthy snacks more often at snack times.
  • Make sure your child eats breakfast every day. Breakfast may provide your child with the energy he or she needs to listen and learn in school. Skipping breakfast can leave your child hungry, tired, and looking for less healthy foods later in the day.
  • Eat fast food less often. When you do visit a fast food restaurant, encourage your family to choose the healthier options, such as salads with low-fat dressing or small sandwiches without cheese or mayonnaise.
  • Offer your child water or low-fat milk more often than fruit juice. Low-fat milk and milk products are important for your child's development. One hundred percent fruit juice is a healthy choice but is high in calories.
  • Limit the amount of saturated and trans fats in your family's diet. Instead, obtain most of your fats from sources such as fish, vegetable oils, nuts, and seeds.
  • Plan healthy meals and eat together as a family. Eating together at meal times helps children learn to enjoy a variety of foods.
  • Do not get discouraged if your child will not eat a new food the first time it is served. Some kids will need to have a new food served to them 10 times or more before they will eat it.
  • Try not to use food as a reward when encouraging kids to eat. Promising dessert to a child for eating vegetables, for example, sends the message that vegetables are less valuable than dessert. Kids learn to dislike foods they think are less valuable.
  • Start with small servings and let your child ask for more if he or she is still hungry. It is up to you to provide your child with healthy meals and snacks, but your child should be allowed to choose how much food he or she will eat.
  • Be aware that some high-fat or high-sugar foods and beverages may be strongly marketed to kids. Usually these products are associated with cartoon characters, offer free toys, and come in bright packages. Talk with your child about the importance of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and other healthy foods even if these foods are not often advertised on TV or in stores.

Your child might enjoy trying the following healthy snack foods:

  • Fresh fruit
  • Fruit canned in juice or light syrup
  • Small amounts of dried fruits, such as raisins, apple rings or apricots
  • Fresh vegetables, such as baby carrots, cucumber, zucchini or tomatoes
  • Low-sugar, whole-grain cereal with low-fat milk
  • Foods that are small, round, sticky, or hard to chew, such as raisins, whole grapes, hard vegetables, hard chunks of cheese, nuts, seeds, and popcorn can cause choking in children under age 4. You can still prepare some of these foods for young children, for example, by cutting grapes into small pieces and cooking and cutting up vegetables. Always watch your toddler during meals and snacks.
Encourage Daily Physical Activity

Like adults, kids need daily physical activity. Here are some ways to help your child move every day:
  • Set a good example. If your children see that you are physically active and have fun, they are more likely to be active and stay active throughout their lives.
  • Encourage your child to join a sports team or class, such as soccer, dance, basketball, or gymnastics at school or at your local community or recreation center.
  • Be sensitive to your child's needs. If your child feels uncomfortable participating in activities like sports, help him or her find physical activities that are fun and not embarrassing, such as playing tag with friends or siblings, jumping rope, or dancing to his or her favorite music.
  • Be active together as a family. Assign active chores such as making the beds, washing the car, or vacuuming. Plan active outings such as a trip to the zoo, a family bike ride, or a walk through a local park.

A pre-adolescent child’s body is not ready for adult-style physical activity. Do not encourage your child to participate in activities such as long jogs, using an exercise bike or treadmill, or lifting heavy weights. FUN physical activities that kids choose to do on their own are often best.

Kids need about 60 minutes of physical activity a day, but this does not have to happen all at once. Several short 10- or even 5-minute periods of activity throughout the day are just as good. If your children are not used to being active, encourage them to start with what they can do and build up to 60 minutes a day.

Your child might enjoy trying the following physical activities:

  • Riding a bike
  • Climbing on a jungle gym
  • Swinging on a swing set
  • Jumping rope
  • Playing hopscotch
  • Bouncing a ball
  • Dancing
  • Playing catch
Discourage Inactive Pastimes
  • Set limits on the amount of time your family spends watching TV, playing video games, and being on the computer.
  • Help your child find fun things to do besides watching TV, like acting out favorite books or stories, or doing a family art project. Your child may find that creative play is more interesting than television.
  • Encourage your child to get up and move during commercials and discourage snacking when the TV is on.
Be A Positive Role Model

Children are good learners and they often mimic what they see. Choose healthy foods and active pastimes for yourself. Your children will learn to follow healthy habits that last a lifetime.

Last updated August 27, 2008